The 2016 Senior Perspectives is the 11th in a series of annual collections. Senior captains and representatives of teams at Harvard have been invited to contribute viewpoints based on personal experience from both their senior seasons and full varsity careers at Harvard.
For a complete listing of 2016 Senior Perspectives, click here.
Kit Metoyer, Women's Basketball, Team Co-Captain
Hometown: Houston, Texas
House Affiliation: Winthrop
My older brother is my hero. He believed in me from the moment I was born. He allowed me to believe that I could do whatever I set my mind to. The dream to play basketball at Harvard started because of him. This dream became a reality because of Kathy Delaney-Smith. Even four years later, the shock doesn’t wear off. I’m at Harvard and Harvard is forever. So before I even get started: Kathy, thank you.
My life changed forever when Kathy plucked me, lanky and still-growing, out of her recruiting pool and gave me the opportunity, and the honor, of putting on the Harvard jersey as part of a long line of players in a storied basketball tradition. But the jersey is just part of the story. The wins and losses, tears and laughs, wind sprints and extra jumpers, practice and games, are just part of the story. With Kathy it’s bigger than that. Basketball is a platform. Basketball is a tool, a tool to take young teenaged girls and build them into strong, resilient, selfless, and hard-working women. Every day I walked into Lavietes, I left a better version of myself. With Kathy, there is a lesson to be learned in everything. Every missed shot, every sideline chat, every detail of a drill serves a purpose. Sure, it all serves a basketball purpose. It’s all geared towards the ultimate goal of hanging a banner, and for me winning wasn’t just everything, it was the only thing. But as a senior looking back I am finally able to see that all of these moments contributed to a picture much bigger than the game of basketball. Kathy is a fighter, she’s a winner, and she’s a teacher. Luckily for us as her players, all of these things go hand-in-hand. She wants to win but she is also just as invested in us as people, and specifically in us as women. The world needs strong women and Kathy has made it her personal mission to provide them. I did things here I did not think I was mentally or physically capable of. I have been exhausted almost to the point of tears. I have shed tears of joy and of heartbreak. I have been on both the winning and losing side of buzzer beaters. I have learned to embrace every part of the process, no matter how mundane or minute; because every part of this process is part of something bigger than myself. These are life skills, skills I will take with me through every walk of life.
As a senior, I was lucky enough to be a captain. I learned more this past year than any other thus far. I learned how to be a leader both vocally and by example. I learned the beauty of sacrifice and selflessness, but perhaps most importantly, I learned how to be a servant leader. Most would think that these two words do not fit next to each other, but they are actually one in the same. As a captain you exist for your teammates. You put them before yourself in every facet. You lead them into battle on the front lines and take the brunt of the war. You do all of this because you love your team and you are willing to do whatever is takes to see everyone, and the unit, succeed. Put simply: you do whatever is necessary to protect the team. You have to make tough decisions and have tough conversations and you have to be consistent in your leadership day in and day out. Kathy not only gave me this opportunity but she was by my side every step of the way. She helped take my mental toughness and work ethic, two things I have always prided myself on, to even greater heights.
I have my parents to thank for instilling intrinsic values in me from a young age but I have Harvard, in particular Kathy Delaney-Smith and HWBB, to thank for helping me cultivate and strengthen these values in ways I never thought possible. I can say without a doubt that I am not the same person I was on August 25, 2012 when I first stepped foot on this campus as a wide-eyed and naïve eighteen-year old freshman from a warm weather place that had never seen snow. Who I am today, on April 18, 2016, is in large part because of my experiences at this institution. I’ve been challenged and I’ve been supported. My teammates have been my sisters and my soldiers. Without them, and without this program, I am not half of the person I am today and for that I am eternally grateful. I am ready for the world, and I have HWBB to thank for that.